1 King 3:16-28

This scripture can give you strength through difficult times. It reminds us that by minimizing the tension and striving to always do what is best for your children, not what is best for you, will ultimately reap the greatest reward; children who will grow to be healthy and happy adults who respect their Mother and know how much she loves them.

"Now two women came to the king and stood before him. One of them said, "My lord, this woman and I live in the same house. I had a baby while she was there with me. The third day after my child was born, this woman also had a baby. We were alone; there was no one in the house but the two of us. "During the night this woman's son died because she lay on him. So she got up in the middle of the night and took my son from my side while I your servant was asleep. The next morning, I got up to look for my child-- and he was gone! The other woman said, "No! The living child is mine. "But the first one insisted, "No! The child you have is mine;

And so they argued before the king. The king said, "This one says, 'My son is alive and your son is dead,' while that one says, 'No! Your son is dead and mine is alive.'" Then the king said, "Bring me a sword." So they brought a sword for the king. He then gave an order: "Cut the living child in two and give half to one and half to the other." The woman whose son was alive was filled with compassion for her son and said to the king, "Please, my lord, give her the living baby! Don't let any harm come to him!" But the other said, "Neither I nor you shall have him. Cut him in two!" Then the king gave his ruling: "Give the living baby to the first woman. Do not harm him; she is his mother."

When all Israel heard the verdict the king had given, they held the king in awe, because they saw that he had wisdom from God to administer justice."

The lesson the Founder hopes you see in this story is that God knows and sees all. Do not fall prey to the selfishness the first Mother did. Take the higher road whenever possible, for your children’s sake. Avoid lengthy court battles and dragging your children into “adult matters”. But never EVER give up your God given right to be your children’s Mother! Nobody can ever take that away from you. Remember, God knows who is TRULY acting in the best interest of the child(ren) and those actions will certainly be rewarded in the end.


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