Social anxiety is the third largest psychological problem in the United States today. This type of anxiety affects 15 million Americans in any given year. Unlike some other psychological problems, social phobia is not well understood by the general public or by medical and mental health care professionals, such as doctors, psychiatrists, psychologists, therapists, social workers, and counselors. In fact, people with social phobia are misdiagnosed almost 90% of the time.


Being a Non Custodial Mom can, in many cases, trigger Social Anxiety and Anxiety attacks. Due to the social stigma that is unjustly placed on Mothers Without Custody, a simple thing like a child’s baseball game or dance recital can be difficult to attend without utter dread.


The difference is, with “typical” Social Anxiety, an individual only perceives people scrutinizing their behavior and their character. In the case of a Non Custodial Mom, people usually are whispering and pointing, assuming that she’s a drug addict, alcoholic, child abuser who gave up her children; because in a lot of cases that’s what they’ve been told by the Father. Even when the Father doesn’t come right out and say those things, a good majority of Fathers certainly don’t let it be known that the Mother is a fit and loving Mother who did not want to give up custody.


Anxiety attacks may also be triggered when communication is necessary; either by phone or in person during pick ups and/or drop offs. This is most common when there was emotional or physical abuse in the relationship.

Below are some links and resources for both Social Anxiety and Anxiety Attacks:


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