One of the main focuses of this website is dealing with the excruciating pain of a minimized or non existent relationship with your child. This pain can bring about depression, social anxiety, panic attacks, and many other conditions which can be common in a Non Custodial Parent.


First and foremost, if you are suffering from depression, please contact your doctor and schedule an appointment to discuss it with him. Unlike years ago, depression is highly treatable.

You can also visit this list of activities for more suggestions on fighting depression, and try these "one minute or less" stress relievers..

Take four long, slow breaths, and as you exhale, imagine that a gray cloud of stress, worries or troubles is leaving your life. As you inhale, imagine that peace and love and wisdom are filling you up.

Take your shoes off, rub the bottoms of your feet with your knuckles and massage the joints and tips of your toes.

Smell something nice, like an orange or your child’s hair, or put on a dab of perfume.

Splash water on your face.

While standing, bend over to touch the floor, shake your arms loosely and straighten up slowly as you take in a big breath.

Look at something pretty.

Knead your neck and shoulders.

Nibble something good.

Rub your eyes and the bones around them gently.

Hug your child or partner for one whole minute.

Remember a good joke.

Repeat a favorite saying or prayer to yourself.

Remember that you have a support system at NANCM ready to listen to your vents and help you focus back on your goal


Listed below is a vast array of resources and links that will hopefully guide you to the help you may be looking for.


Finding this website was the best thing that has happened to me in a long time, I cannot express how happy I am that I am finally not alone in this situation anymore. Thank you all of you for just being there!!!!!!!!! HOORAY HOORAY HOORAY

"Hi Beverly ~ It was great to talk to you today...AND I forgot to say THANK-YOU!!!! for developing your web site for people like me.  When no one else was there ~ when no one "understood" how I felt ~ you and all of those wonderful non-custodial moms WERE THERE.  That is priceless.  You have a very special place in my heart and many other hearts for your hard work and compassion..”

NANCM has been my lifeline since I stumbled upon the website 4 months ago. The support, understanding and information has proved invaluable to me as I struggle with my NCM status.

" I found this website tonight. What a wonderful way to look for advice, support and a sounding board. For sooo long I felt as though I was alone. There is no way that anyone can understand the pain we feel unless they have experienced it themselves."

Sydney, NSW

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