Mother of 3 children.
Custodial Parent to 1 daughter from current marriage.
Non-Custodial to 2 children who live with their Father, in PA.
Victim of a 1,200 mile "move away".
I am a parent who strongly believes that children need, deserve, and have a right to BOTH parents in their life when both parents are fit and loving. I also believe that children have many rights, which are not provided by many Custodial Parents.
I am a Parent who strongly believes that more parents need educated on how to effectively Co-Parent
I am a Parent who strongly believes that "move aways" are extremely immoral and cause irreparable emotional harm to children. Any custodial parent who moves children away from a fit and loving parent (legally or illegally) is committing Parentectomy.
If parents are practicing a 50/50 joint custody arrangement and one parent decides to move, it should be illegal for that parent to take the children with him/her. It is the moving parent that should sacrifice their relationship with their child(ren) instead of stripping the other parent and the children of their rights to maintain a close relationship with each other both emotionally AND geographically. A law forbidding "move aways" would practically eliminate every instance of a parent moving for no other reason than to hurt their former spouse.
I am thrilled to know that there is legislation being worked on to keep the horror of “move aways” from happening to more Mothers and Fathers in the future. I pray that future generations of parents and especially children are spared from this nightmare.
I pray with all my heart for the people who are making this a reality. Due to the efforts of many wonderful people who have the courage and fortitude to fight in the legislative arena, I do believe that one day EVERY fit and loving parent can expect no less than a 50/50 joint custody arrangement with no "move aways" allowed.
Many years have passed since my story started; with too many heartaches, struggles, triumphs, and battles in between to recount or begin to retell. I carry the heartache with me every day, and the struggle of learning to cope will never end. But I'm not alone. Through all of this, that's one of the most important things I've learned. Far FAR too many Mothers and Fathers live with this pain, and with the state of the Family Court system today, it’s not about to change any time soon.
Many who have joined NANCM have lost custody or contact with their children for reasons other than a move away. . Please know that you have a “soft place to land” here at NANCM. You’ve found a warm, loving, supportive and non judgmental place where you can talk with hundreds of other women (and a couple men) who have walked in your shoes. Whether it was a court travesty, a matter of who had more money, more power, more control, abuse, custody relinquishment; every situation creates the need for emotional support. And that is what you'll find here.
You are no longer alone.